Spent a good deal of time trying to figure out how to post pictures. I'll get it soon, promise. My last post was way more interesting with pictures lol. 


So.. what is DD... how is it defined? 

This can vary greatly among couples. 

I've heard some people say "when you spank your wife as punishment, DO NOT have sex afterwards." 

I've read some articles where the man says to the woman, something like, "honey, I'm sorry I have to do this. I need to spank you because I love you. Do you understand?" 

Some people pick out some bible verses and preach that it is a biblical command. They may take one text, or one chapter, and literally interpret it. 

NONE of that works for us, and that's ok. 

The beauty of a relationship- ANY relationship, is that it is unique. It is an ever-changing, unique blend of two people. Some DD relationships are men/men, women/women, femme domme/male sub, etc. None of them are WRONG- they just are. 

Some of us are stay at home moms, who wear very conservative clothing such as skirts and the like. Some of us have VERY defined roles. Some of us follow a church tradition. Some of us are totally in it for the kink. 

Jackson & I have a relationship that works for us. We have been practicing this relationship for a little over 2 years now. We have had breaks, we have had not-so-good times, we have had ups and we have had lows. We've been faced with tragedy (more than once), heartache, lack of trust, financial stress, illness, family issues, death of family, career changes... and we have survived. We were married about 10 years when we started this relationship, and DD has brought us closer... though we had to be drawn apart first, before we could come back together. 

Some day I may feel brave enough to discuss some of these pivotal moments that could have broken us... and very nearly did. 

But today I want to focus on US. I want to tell you, to have hope, and believe in yourself. 

I work... I love my job. I'm a labor and delivery nurse, at a rather large hospital. I LOVE it. He loves that I have a job I enjoy. I used to think I wanted to be a stay at home mom. I used to think I wanted to be home, and serve him, always. But now I realize, its just not ME, and that's ok. 

My husband likes me in dresses and skirts.. but they aren't always practical and I dont' always feel pretty in them. He enjoys me in a pair of jeans, shorts, capris...  He likes me to be my own self... I like jewelry, light makeup, and some style to my clothes. I like to express myself, and he enjoys that. He would not want me to be in a skirt all the time, serving him, a humble housewife. For US, that would not work. He likes that I'm a 'modern woman', yet I submit to him. He's the boss, he's in charge, and we like it like that.  THere are times I forget that, or I fail to give him the respect he deserves, and he has to remind me of it. Just this morning, in fact, I forgot to check in with him when I went out. He gently reminded me, "You haven't checked in. Where are you?" He may even punish me tonight to remind me that he is boss. 

Sex after punishment. This can be a hot topic. I've read a lot on it, and some people have asked me, "how can it be punishment if you're turned on by it, or if you make love afterwards?"  This is also highly individual. Believe me, I know the difference between a fun spanking and a punishment one. I have a very high pain tolerance, and he has to be VERY strict with me, and rather severe at times. I'll speak on this more at another time. My point in bringing this up, is that we know the difference. He scolds during both, and the tone, the severity, etc. is very clear as to what I'm getting, and why.  For us, most of the time, sex is a re-connection after punishment. It is him asserting his authority, him asserting that I am HIS, and me knowing I'm forgiven, and us re-uniting. 

To be held by him, after a punishment, followed by love making... well, there is nothing like it. I know I'm safe, beautiful, loved, cherished... HIS.